If you have ever been in love, you may have experienced how it actually feels like to be blinded by it. People in love longed to visualise it. Shakespeare also mentioned in many of his plays that Love is blind, and Lovers cannot see. Will blinded love lead to endless mistakes and regrets? Logically speaking, Love can choose to be blind, but lovers should not be. In its truest sense, the ideology that love is blind does not and even if it does, should not exist but the benefit of every man and woman who is seeking love.
This emotional fog spurs from the heart and almost all of us have experienced it in one way or another. Yet the question remains. We all know that love is binding, but is it blinding as well? Or rather, the ones in it chose to shut their eyes against the world. Undoubtedly, lovers choose to be blinded. For the simple reason that all four types of love, Agape, Philia, Eros and Storge are by virtue, the most natural emotional impulse of Man. When love does transcend beyond the boundaries of normal apprehension, people find it nearly impossible to leave, and so the risk of unhealthy relationships increases.
Now think about this, if love is blind in the very first place we will not waste so much time and effort creating a positive impression. Disgusting habits will be ‘camouflaged’. We won’t let all these shown until later in the relationship. This is when love really becomes blind. Perhaps only mother’s love for their child is blind. I mean, who else except our own mothers will love us for our annoying traits and habits right from birth? Indeed it will be one of the toughest tests ever for your love ones to see your true self surface. But what if they accept everything about you? The answer is positive. Love turns blind at this juncture.
Factually, people in love are not blind all the time. They respond to hard facts, negative affect and even signs of relationship breakdown such as unfaithfulness and betrayal. Probably this is a piece of comforting news for those yearning and craving for a taste of love. This is when the mind finally decides to overpower the emotions of the heart and telling it to stop. I call it a ‘wake-up call ‘for the love-hopeful community.
So what does it tells you? People start to seek purity of love and question imperfection? Love can be a figurative matter when there is an existence of class or certain qualities one is looking out for. Man and woman get attracted to physical qualities and beauty before progressing to the next possible stage. This is also the reason why modern relationships are at times too fragile to maintain. True love, indeed, is hard to come by. A person that appears perfect to you now may be imperfect years down the relationship. But isn’t love supposed to be blind? Apparently the effect of ‘blindness’ proved better along with the aging of time. We cannot channel or command love; it just flows naturally when it ought to. Just remember before love blinds you, it takes two halves to form one whole.